"Do we want a society where we're so controlled that we cannot do anything at all? Do we want a society where people can't go out and enjoy themselves?," Read here why lawyer Roger Diamond says this. Quite frankly, I think the city of Angels is in danger of much more...
On another note, a friend yesterday told me something someone had told her and I thought I should share it with you. She was told by a non-Asian male that Canadian women were selfish and even though they insisted that women in the west were independent, that they were in fact the opposite - quite dependent. And that Asian women didn't have these qualities.
I didn't find this comment offensive, as maybe I should have, and in some respects find it to be quite true. In some ways, we in the West often judge Asian women as subservient and weak when, in fact, this is not necessarily true. What is true is that our lifestyles are quite different - some women pursue careers and family and others decide to stay at home and manage the household. The trouble is that many who do decide to stay home and have children and not work are judged as not being as worthy as those who juggle career and family. There is something very wrong with this way of thinking.
As well, the comments about Canadian (and I suppose Western) women being selfish and dependent does ring a little true. When I returned from Japan the first time, I found that even though we were telling everyone we were independent people, able to express ourselves and our styles, we were so very concerned with "fitting in" with our peers. The group mentality does exist here in the West and is more prevalent than we care to admit. We all look for acceptance and love. If we tell people that we don't, we are really lying to ourselves. It is human nature to belong.
I was talking with another friend about this over the weekend. She was saying that her teenaged daughter was having trouble with her best friend because the friend did a 180 degree turn in her behaviour because of a boy. Why do children today still learn this behaviour? It reminds me of the same time in my life that friends seemed to abandon our friendships because of a boy. I don't envy teenagers this at all. It is a very difficult time. How do we console these girls on the verge of womanhood?
And it continues into adult life as well. I have seen very intelligent women change their whole way of being when the man that they desire comes around. They do not express their opinion honestly and conform to this whole "do it to please my man" kind of attitude. (Or perhaps they were not being honest with the female friends initially) Should we work at changing this behaviour for the sake of young people everywhere? (Not just for the girls but for the boys as well - so this type of behaviour is not expected or the norm) Or is it natural in the competition for a mate?
Perhaps this is why I am still single. I don't like to play games. I insist people to be honest with me and I will be honest with them. It may hurt but it makes us stronger in the long run.
What do you think? I think that this warrants dialogue! Share you opinions... both male and female!
On another note, a friend yesterday told me something someone had told her and I thought I should share it with you. She was told by a non-Asian male that Canadian women were selfish and even though they insisted that women in the west were independent, that they were in fact the opposite - quite dependent. And that Asian women didn't have these qualities.
I didn't find this comment offensive, as maybe I should have, and in some respects find it to be quite true. In some ways, we in the West often judge Asian women as subservient and weak when, in fact, this is not necessarily true. What is true is that our lifestyles are quite different - some women pursue careers and family and others decide to stay at home and manage the household. The trouble is that many who do decide to stay home and have children and not work are judged as not being as worthy as those who juggle career and family. There is something very wrong with this way of thinking.
As well, the comments about Canadian (and I suppose Western) women being selfish and dependent does ring a little true. When I returned from Japan the first time, I found that even though we were telling everyone we were independent people, able to express ourselves and our styles, we were so very concerned with "fitting in" with our peers. The group mentality does exist here in the West and is more prevalent than we care to admit. We all look for acceptance and love. If we tell people that we don't, we are really lying to ourselves. It is human nature to belong.
I was talking with another friend about this over the weekend. She was saying that her teenaged daughter was having trouble with her best friend because the friend did a 180 degree turn in her behaviour because of a boy. Why do children today still learn this behaviour? It reminds me of the same time in my life that friends seemed to abandon our friendships because of a boy. I don't envy teenagers this at all. It is a very difficult time. How do we console these girls on the verge of womanhood?
And it continues into adult life as well. I have seen very intelligent women change their whole way of being when the man that they desire comes around. They do not express their opinion honestly and conform to this whole "do it to please my man" kind of attitude. (Or perhaps they were not being honest with the female friends initially) Should we work at changing this behaviour for the sake of young people everywhere? (Not just for the girls but for the boys as well - so this type of behaviour is not expected or the norm) Or is it natural in the competition for a mate?
Perhaps this is why I am still single. I don't like to play games. I insist people to be honest with me and I will be honest with them. It may hurt but it makes us stronger in the long run.
What do you think? I think that this warrants dialogue! Share you opinions... both male and female!
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